Somebody that reminds you of God

Love is a beautiful feeling — soft, all-consuming, and strangely sacred. And perhaps that's why it's often said: *Find someone who reminds you of Allah.* I used to wonder what that even meant. How can someone, just by being themselves, remind me of God? It’s not like he preaches to me every time we talk. He doesn’t quote verses or sermons. But as time passed, I slowly began to understand. 

When you truly fall in love with someone — deeply, sincerely — there’s this overwhelming desire to give them your best. You start thinking, *he could never love me as much as I love him.* You strive to be better for him, not because he asks, but because you want to. You pick up on his little habits, echo his hobbies, try your best to avoid anything that might hurt him. You care for his comfort, his peace, his growth. You want the relationship to thrive — you worry when the spark seems to dim, and you find yourself working to keep it alive. Not because you're afraid of losing him, but because love naturally compels you to give.

And isn’t that how our relationship with Allah is supposed to be? Not just rituals out of obligation. Not just a checklist of do’s and don’ts. But a deep-rooted love that moves us to do more than what is required. We start becoming mindful of our actions, not because we fear punishment, but because we don’t want to disappoint the One we love. We want His pleasure. We want to mirror His kindness and mercy. We want to stay close. 

 Allah says in the Qur’an: > *“Indeed, those who have believed are stronger in love for Allah.”* > (Surah Al-Baqarah, 2:165) 

It’s that kind of love — deep, loyal, and overflowing — that changes a person from within. The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ himself showed us what this divine-centered love looks like. His marriage with Khadijah RA was not just full of affection, but full of remembrance. She was the one who comforted him during the first revelation, believed in him when the world doubted him, and stood by his side without needing to be asked. Even years after her passing, the Prophet ﷺ would speak of her with such tenderness that it made others feel the depth of what they shared. She wasn’t just his wife — she was his reminder of God's mercy in the form of companionship. 

So maybe that’s what it means — to find someone who reminds you of Allah. Not necessarily through religious speeches or constant advice, but through their presence. Through how they make you feel more alive, more conscious, more devoted. Because true love — whether with a person or with God — always brings out the better version of ourselves.